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 Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:15 pm
-Vagtastic- So do you believe that adoption is a bad thing even though you can't provide for it? You keep talking about how you think that its better to keep the child because their losing a connection with them for possibly forever. But what about the people who are doing it for the child's best interest. If you can't provide for the baby then why bother letting it suffer by keeping it?
No matter what happens its still no ones elses fault but the teens who make the decision to have sex. It doesn't matter how many times they're taught sex ed or how many times their parents sit down to talk with them about sex. Kids are going to do what they want to do unless you lock them in their rooms until they turn 21. You can't blame anyone else. I believe that if a mother does want to keep her child she will risk everything she has to just to provide for it. On the other hand she did have unprotected sex. She knew what could possibly happen and should have been prepared for those consequences. I'm not saying adoption is a deathly horrific choice. What I'm saying is raising the child is a better choice. I'm by no means against adoption. I wouldn't want a crack head to keep a baby. That adopted child will eventually wonder who its biological mother/father is and will look. I'm sure no child wants to hear that their mother just wasn't ready or capable of providing for her. But sadly, that happens a lot.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:16 pm
Jackalope2 -Vagtastic- I had sex education class in 7th grade. Pretty much every year after that too. You're one of the few who had a good starting point. ^^
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:19 pm
Divine-Beauti I believe that if a mother does want to keep her child she will risk everything she has to just to provide for it. On the other hand she did have unprotected sex. She knew what could possibly happen and should have been prepared for those consequences. I'm not saying adoption is a deathly horrific choice. What I'm saying is raising the child is a better choice. I'm by no means against adoption. I wouldn't want a crack head to keep a baby. That adopted child will eventually wonder who its biological mother/father is and will look. I'm sure no child wants to hear that their mother just wasn't ready or capable of providing for her. But sadly, that happens a lot. It happens, some mothers just work harder to ensure that their child is ready for the world. And sometimes they adopt knowing that they aren't ready. Neither is wrong. They both have their ups and downs, but it does end up being whatever the mother decides is best for the child. Most of the time they don't think about what this will mean to them. it's a wonderful thing being able to set yourself aside and simply focus on what's best for someone else, even if it means a great sacrifice for ones self.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:22 pm
Princess Zelda21 Jackalope2 -Vagtastic- I had sex education class in 7th grade. Pretty much every year after that too. You're one of the few who had a good starting point. ^^ Three years can make a huge difference, as can background and other things.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:28 pm
xX Celeste Foxx Xx Ame no Tenshi I'm...going to keep my opinion to myself.
Yeah. That just might be for the best.
Carry on. 
... then why bother posting?
@Nannerz: is there a particular reason as to why your font size is so teeny?
Sorry. I'm trying to test out the tool bar and it keeps putting the font size too small. sweatdrop
Is this better?
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:30 pm
I think adoption isn't bad since my brother was born under a bad situation, and the fact that she was 16 when he was born. Even even after meeting him there was no hate. But then again I don't think in most cases the child sees their real mother again.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:38 pm
Bikki Kobayashi IV I think adoption isn't bad since my brother was born under a bad situation, and the fact that she was 16 when he was born. Even even after meeting him there was no hate. But then again I don't think in most cases the child sees their real mother again. I wouldn't be too sure on that. Many children are curious, it's just most of the time they aren't allowed to go back until they're about 18 I think. I think it has something to do with a maturity level that their parents decide is right plus the adoption agency picking an earliest year for maturity on the subject. I went and saw my mother and father in 2007, as did my younger sister. A lot of adopted children aren't that interested for long periods of time, it comes and goes. you know, wondering for a few moments why they are a different ethnicity than their parents, or why they have brown eyes while their parents and grandparents have blue eyes. kids notice these things.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:39 pm
-Vagtastic- xX Celeste Foxx Xx Ame no Tenshi I'm...going to keep my opinion to myself.
Yeah. That just might be for the best.
Carry on.
... then why bother posting?
@Nannerz: is there a particular reason as to why your font size is so teeny?
Sorry. I'm trying to test out the tool bar and it keeps putting the font size too small. sweatdrop
Is this better?
Yay! I can read it!
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:40 pm
wellwisher Bikki Kobayashi IV I think adoption isn't bad since my brother was born under a bad situation, and the fact that she was 16 when he was born. Even even after meeting him there was no hate. But then again I don't think in most cases the child sees their real mother again. I wouldn't be too sure on that. Many children are curious, it's just most of the time they aren't allowed to go back until they're about 18 I think. I think it has something to do with a maturity level that their parents decide is right plus the adoption agency picking an earliest year for maturity on the subject. I went and saw my mother and father in 2007, as did my younger sister. A lot of adopted children aren't that interested for long periods of time, it comes and goes. you know, wondering for a few moments why they are a different ethnicity than their parents, or why they have brown eyes while their parents and grandparents have blue eyes. kids notice these things.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:42 pm
Princess Zelda21 wellwisher Bikki Kobayashi IV I think adoption isn't bad since my brother was born under a bad situation, and the fact that she was 16 when he was born. Even even after meeting him there was no hate. But then again I don't think in most cases the child sees their real mother again. I wouldn't be too sure on that. Many children are curious, it's just most of the time they aren't allowed to go back until they're about 18 I think. I think it has something to do with a maturity level that their parents decide is right plus the adoption agency picking an earliest year for maturity on the subject. I went and saw my mother and father in 2007, as did my younger sister. A lot of adopted children aren't that interested for long periods of time, it comes and goes. you know, wondering for a few moments why they are a different ethnicity than their parents, or why they have brown eyes while their parents and grandparents have blue eyes. kids notice these things. A good point.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:43 pm
Princess Zelda21 That's true, some children may also have a good eye for details like that. I know I do. But for a lot of their childhood lives it's quite passing. Small details they think about, ask, then forget. it's because they aren't quite mature enough to fully comprehend it all, and most of the time parents know that, and shelter them from all of the legalities of it until they know their child is mature enough to understand it. It's not cruel, it's to ensure proper development within the child.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 11:06 pm
I think that they should definitely teach teens about birth control, condoms, etc. "Abstinence only" has simply failed.
Although I don't think abortion should be used one's primary "birth control", I don't think it should be illegal or even restricted. I see abortion as a difficult personal decision. Although I personally find it horrid and hope I'm never in a situation in which I would have to so much as consider it, I would never support the stripping of that right.
Realistically, if you want to decrease the number of abortions you have to accept that many, many teenagers have sex and teach them to do so responsibly.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 11:11 pm
I would educate my child about birth control and to prevent getting raped. I would also tell my child that it would be best if they waited until marriage because sex is meant to be shared between you and one other person (this is not just because of religion, but because the emotional stuff that comes with sex).
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 11:13 pm
Princess Zelda21 Demon of the Stars Princess Zelda21 Well, think about it, abortion is still considered killing an unborn human being though! It's just so wrong!
So?Every day I deny thousands of possible childs the chance of life. Guess what? I don't care. They're better off dead. Because frankly, mental deficiencies can be passed on to your child. They're in general genetic. So giving a rapist's son a chance of life is taking the chance he will grow up as ******** up as dear daddy found in that dark alley that smells like piss and semen.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 11:24 pm
Soul of Aqua Princess Zelda21 Demon of the Stars Princess Zelda21 Well, think about it, abortion is still considered killing an unborn human being though! It's just so wrong!
So?Every day I deny thousands of possible childs the chance of life. Guess what? I don't care. They're better off dead. Because frankly, mental deficiencies can be passed on to your child. They're in general genetic. So giving a rapist's son a chance of life is taking the chance he will grow up as ******** up as dear daddy found in that dark alley that smells like piss and semen. And a follow-up point is every unused egg that is shed every month by females who do not get pregnant. That's a potential child as well. How about all the fertilized eggs that for some unknown reason, don't attatch to the uterine wall and are then flushed out of the body? Is that murder, then too?
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