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Do not, I repeat, do NOT tell them in a note.

It sounds like your parents are pretty good, so try not to stress too much (easier said than done). Take a few days, or a week, or whatever, and figure out exactly what you want to say to them. Think about the big questions they're likely to ask. It's still nerve-wracking, but things like this seem to go easier when you're prepared.

And unless you want to be like me and end up stressing for months waiting for the right time, I'd recommend setting a day to do it, and stick to that deadline. Drawing it out makes it worse.

Good luck!

I'm sure your parents will love you. I have a gay daughter, and I don't love her any less than my other children.