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gosh i really like these 2 guys.. (still looking for advice)

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cheerchik

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 19, 2006 1:05 am
okay so heres the deal..
I like 2 guys, Im not gonna use real names
ill call them Bob and Bill
well, i went out with bob twice and we both really like each other
but i have his password for myspace
and i went on it and i read his messages (yes i know thats bad)
and he was telling this 6th grader that he likes her
and that he doesnt have a girlfriend
but he does.. well thats what he told me
and i feel like he is becoming a player or something
the first time we went out i broke up with him
because he didnt call me for like a month
and didnt attempt to or anything
and when i finally got a hold of him he said he already had another girlfriend
and that pissed me off cause he was still going out with me
so basically he "cheated" on me
but he didnt know it because this other guy (ill call him Bret)
told him that i broke up with him
but what i really told bret was that i was thinking about doing it
so that was all messed up
the second time we went out he broke up with me for some gay reason


now, bill
i really like him
and idk if he likes me back
because we are different races and stuff
but also because there are times when we are talking
and it feels like we are talking as if we are only gonna be friends
and then other times its like hes flirting..
last week i was walking to the bathroom during 4th period
and he saw me in the hall and he slowed down and stopped to talk to me
and it was a quick talk but it was AWESOME!

so anyway my problems are...
how can i find out if bill likes me if it seems like sometimes
he likes me but then other times it doesnt
and also hes kind perverted...

and should i still trust bob after he cheated on me?
and should i consider dating him again?
i really really really like him a lot and im kinda sure he likes me back
its almost like hes a man whore or something...  
PostPosted: Sun Nov 19, 2006 7:13 am
Try to find out if bill likes you first.
I think bob is a man whore, but its up to you...
Bill sounds alot safer, and you can ALWAYS tell a guy NO to anything sexual. I've liked someone who was peverted, he groped my a** in class to a slaped him sweatdrop biggrin stressed
I really dont like bob... you may only get hurt more with bob. Bill sounds ALOT better.
thats all I have to say, good luck!!  

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 19, 2006 2:04 pm
great advice! thanks a lot <3
but i really really like bob...
but still thanks  
PostPosted: Wed Nov 22, 2006 7:04 am
what is it that u like about this bob guy? after all, he cheated u, dissapeared on u, was telling a 6thgrader he liked her....i'm with black sugar. bill sounds WAY SAFER! man whores never lead to anything long-lasting. i dunno about u, but i were to date [not doing so, got my b/f already ^_^'] it wouldn't b to just go out. it'd b for actually wanting something there, and man whores r usually here, there, and good-bye. nothing real. just a hobby, i'd even dare say. so, my advice is, do what ever u feel is right, but bill sounds way safer. lol  

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PostPosted: Wed Nov 22, 2006 1:37 pm
omg bob didnt mean to cheat on me
it was brets fault
bret told him that i broke up with him
but i told bret that i was thinking about it
thats why bob got another GF
and i think im gonna try to go for bill =]]  
PostPosted: Sun Nov 26, 2006 1:29 pm
hm...Well Ankie i think that you should of called me and asked me first before posting this....but n e way if i were u i would go out with Bill the way u talk to me about him i think he's sweet he doesn't sound that perverted to me.yea u might wanna find out if he likes you first though.with luv WARNIE  

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PostPosted: Wed Nov 29, 2006 8:23 am
First of, KNOW YOUR FRIENDS..
IF this Bret person was really your friend,
that person wouldn't have told your so called boyfriend,
what you've said.

Second you're too young to be in a relationship,
how I know this your so called boyfriend,
didn't even bother to talk to you first to what was going on,
instead of he was assuming that you guys are over and
find another so called girlfriend.
Obviously your so called boyfriend Bob,
doesn't know what he wants yet,
and play around (because at this age it's only fun and games...
believe me..I have a lot of friends falling for this kind of boys
ones gave them their price position...and winding
with falling tears on their cheeks..I saw it coming,
but since my friends and I were once young;
they never care to listen to me...
because then I didn't have no "boyfriend" experience...)

Third of all don't lower your standards for some boy,
you'd fall not once but twice;
you gave him a chance the first time that didn't work,
and the second time and that didn't work;
so why would you assume he'll be better the third time????
Has he earn your respecst for him to earn it the third time???
That's a degrading acts on your part,
and could carry on when you're older
by not learning from your mistakes.
Boys comes and go,
Most won't treat you right,
but you have to ask for respect,
by acting that you are better than what you end up with,
and capable of leaving them if they mistreat you.

Well if you like Bill then go for it...
But how is he perverted???
If he is perverted,
then move on there's other
fish to bait off the sea,
catching the right one is hard to do;
but never let them mistreat you.
Tell yourself you're better than that.  
PostPosted: Wed Nov 29, 2006 6:57 pm
Go for Bill, make sure he likes you though... Bob doesn't sound like someone who wants to stay tied down for long.... and people can't help what race they are...Don't make that your only reason for not letting something blossom....

13 is kinda young for relationships but just try make good descisions and it's all good
 

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PostPosted: Sat Dec 09, 2006 10:10 am
great advice ladies thank you.
it seems as if nobody things that
bob is the right guy for me
and i pretty much dont like him anymore.
but i heard from one of my friends
that bill found out i like him
from this girl (ill call her chanelle)
and i asked her and she said she never even talks to bill
so idk about that
but my other friend (ill call her alley)
told me that she would ask him who he likes
but bill wouldnt tell her
but he did say that he knows i like him
and he would think about going out with me
but thats not how i wanted it
i wanted him to talk to me him self
but i guess thats not going to happen
so should i believe alley from what she told me
because i trust her
and i dont think she would lie to me about this


but then again i do believe her
because during PE hes always looking at me
and acting all mysterious
because he knows i like unpredicatable guys
so... does it seem like alley is telling the truth?
and that he will ask me out?
or maybe to the dance friday?  
PostPosted: Sat Dec 09, 2006 10:11 am
MiSsTeRiOuSMyStiQ
First of, KNOW YOUR FRIENDS..
IF this Bret person was really your friend,
that person wouldn't have told your so called boyfriend,
what you've said.

Second you're too young to be in a relationship,
how I know this your so called boyfriend,
didn't even bother to talk to you first to what was going on,
instead of he was assuming that you guys are over and
find another so called girlfriend.
Obviously your so called boyfriend Bob,
doesn't know what he wants yet,
and play around (because at this age it's only fun and games...
believe me..I have a lot of friends falling for this kind of boys
ones gave them their price position...and winding
with falling tears on their cheeks..I saw it coming,
but since my friends and I were once young;
they never care to listen to me...
because then I didn't have no "boyfriend" experience...)

Third of all don't lower your standards for some boy,
you'd fall not once but twice;
you gave him a chance the first time that didn't work,
and the second time and that didn't work;
so why would you assume he'll be better the third time????
Has he earn your respecst for him to earn it the third time???
That's a degrading acts on your part,
and could carry on when you're older
by not learning from your mistakes.
Boys comes and go,
Most won't treat you right,
but you have to ask for respect,
by acting that you are better than what you end up with,
and capable of leaving them if they mistreat you.

Well if you like Bill then go for it...
But how is he perverted???
If he is perverted,
then move on there's other
fish to bait off the sea,
catching the right one is hard to do;
but never let them mistreat you.
Tell yourself you're better than that.


he is perverted because like
he touches girls
not like rapist ways though
just like rubbing their legs
and like flicking their boobs or something
but hes always on kidding.. i think....  

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PostPosted: Sun Dec 10, 2006 7:36 pm
maybe bill is checkin u out, as in deciding whether u r worth it nor not [no offense intended]. plus, i'm one that hates having ppl "do things for me". as in, if u have sumthin u want to ask him, go right up and do it. u won't lose anything by doing so. worse that could happen? not gettting the answer, and u wouldn't anyway if in the first place u didn't ask. so, yeah, i think u should take matters into ur hands and talk with bill on ur own, speak ur mind [to the extent u feel u can. i don't mean that u'll tell him just about evrything right off].  
PostPosted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 6:43 pm
yah. but thats one thing
ill tell myself
i can do this. i can do this.
but then i just cant
ill try but nothing comes out the way i want it  

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PostPosted: Tue Dec 19, 2006 11:27 pm
just watch for if bill gives you special treatment. (this may be positive or negative)

for example, if he is only 'playful' around you, then that's a sign that he likes you. if he's also 'playful' around other girls, then it doesn't mean anything one way or the other...
same with looking at you and acting mysterious... he may be sending you a signal, or he may just be spacing out... (I don't mean to offend or anything... sorry if I did... ^^; )


that may or may not help... the only way to know for sure is to ask him...


but yeah, i dont really know for sure what i'd do if it was me in this situation...
good luck. ^^  
PostPosted: Wed Dec 20, 2006 11:45 pm
mm thanks =]  

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PostPosted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 2:15 pm
Uh.. dude, you're 13. IMO you shouldn't even be worrying about guy drama.

But.. well.. for one, mostly all teenage guys are perverted, so.. get used to it. You'll have to deal with it for quite a few years to come.

If the one guy (I can't get those names straight) went on a date with you and then didn't talk to you for a month.. then he's an a** and I say tell him to go to hell. You're 13, it's just a crush, it's not like you guys will be getting married.

As for the other guy.. just be straight with him and tell him that you like him. Or.. well... you could ask him how he feels about you. Just say you're getting vibes that he's flirting with you but you're not sure, and see what he says.  
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