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Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 9:11 pm
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Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 9:42 pm
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Well, realizing there is a problem is the first step to healing. I sometimes get that way. At school, I will talk to someone, leave for a second, and when I come back they will give me an odd look and call me weird. Anyway, first of all, cutting doesn't work. I have a lot of friends that do it and they keep telling me they will regret it forever.
Second and most important, you recognize you have problems. Write a list of all the things you want to change. Then picture and describe the person you want to be. Then sort through your problems and become the person you want to be. I'm not talking about goths or preppy or what not. I'm talking about finding who YOU are. Anyone can put themselves in a group, but not many can find themselves. Find out the things you like (such as movies, foods, friends) and find yourself. Problems tend to seem so big to you, but if you list them out, they tend not to seem as bad.
Oh yes, one more thing. People change. If the person you are or want to be dose not make you happy, find out what dose. You learn by mistakes, that's part of being human. And be happy, it's your life.
You see, you wouldn't have to be debating over which mask you should wear if you only looked in the mirror and saw how beautiful you are. Do you understand what I mean?
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Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 9:43 pm
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Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 5:00 am
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Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 7:54 am
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Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 7:56 am
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lil_lollypop1 Well, realizing there is a problem is the first step to healing. I sometimes get that way. At school, I will talk to someone, leave for a second, and when I come back they will give me an odd look and call me weird. Anyway, first of all, cutting doesn't work. I have a lot of friends that do it and they keep telling me they will regret it forever. Second and most important, you recognize you have problems. Write a list of all the things you want to change. Then picture and describe the person you want to be. Then sort through your problems and become the person you want to be. I'm not talking about goths or preppy or what not. I'm talking about finding who YOU are. Anyone can put themselves in a group, but not many can find themselves. Find out the things you like (such as movies, foods, friends) and find yourself. Problems tend to seem so big to you, but if you list them out, they tend not to seem as bad. Oh yes, one more thing. People change. If the person you are or want to be dose not make you happy, find out what dose. You learn by mistakes, that's part of being human. And be happy, it's your life. You see, you wouldn't have to be debating over which mask you should wear if you only looked in the mirror and saw how beautiful you are. Do you understand what I mean?
Thanks =]
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Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 5:27 pm
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Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 6:05 am
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Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 6:08 pm
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 2:55 pm
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Hybridblake II No matter what goes wrong in my life, i can ALWAYS fake like im pefectly fine. My friend tried to kill herself, i cried about a half hour, then nobody could tell the difference. Bassically, i have an AMAZINGGGGGG long list of things wrong, but every person i know will never know anything is wrong. When i surpress things like i do, i tend to resort to cutting. What should i do?
I think we share the same problem... I also feel obligated by myself to hide my feelings so at the end nobody could be possibly affected.... I cannot help you with that because I'm still fighting against that... but I think Jesus can help you...
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 9:16 pm
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 11:52 am
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I definitely understand the mask thing, I've worn one my entire life. But, you really need to work on opening up to people, and as some of the other people here have said, find someone close, who you can trust. Keeping it all inside...it destroys you after a while...and you think you've got everything covered until one day you get a crack in your mask and it all goes to pieces, and I say this from personal experience. It's frightening, opening yourself to another person..it can make you feel vulnerable and exposed...but, when you find that one person you trust, the relief that comes from sharing your burdens is amazing. I don't know if that helped at all, but I sincerely hope you are able to find your way, and find who you are. Don't let pain define you as a person! Also, I think you would be surprised how many people feel the way you do...true, they don't feel exactly the same, but I think a lot of people hide. I know that when I told some of my teachers at school that I have social anxiety disorder and depression they were all, "Really? I never would have guessed...not in a million years" because I hid it, and I hid it well. And I know it hurts to feel like you're suffering in silence, and how frustrating it can be that no one notices, but you need to hang in there because things will get better. And if you really feel that there is something seriously wrong with you, you could always try seeing a therapist, because I know for me, before I was diagnosed, I had a lot of anger and pain and loneliness and freaking out on the inside, and having a name to put to it helped a lot. Anyway, I hope things start looking up for you, and as lil_lollypop1 said, if you ever need someone to talk to, you can PM me too *hugs* 3nodding
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Posted: Fri May 23, 2008 1:52 am
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Posted: Mon May 26, 2008 12:46 pm
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Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 4:19 am
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People tend to resort to cutting due to overwhelm... they feel so much that they can't contain it mentally. You can physically hide the way you feel, by wearing a happy mask over the sad, angry you... (for want of a better term) but the emotions wont stay in your mind, so they come out physically anyway, in the only way you will let them, which is by cutting. I wont bother going into a tirade of why cutting is dangerous... because that wont help you solve your problems... just saying 'stop cutting' is like telling a person with a cold to stop sneezing... they can try but if you dont remove the reason why they are sneezing (or remove the reason why you are cutting) then they (and you) can't really stop.
What I do suggest is that you seek counselling, or somewhere you can get all your problems off your chest, someone to talk to who isn't a friend or a relative because talking to friends and relative seems like it is difficult for you to actually show how you are feeling to those close to you. And that is ok in a way, because some of us aren't 'heart on our sleeves' type of people, but certainly having a listening ear will help in relieving some of the tension you feel from bottling up your emotions.
I suggest a counsellor, because they can offer feedback and they tend to be able to help you find solutions in your own way to some of your life's problems, but if you can t even bear to do that (it can be hard at first, especially if you have to 'shop around' to find a counsellor you are comfortable with) Then my next suggestion would be to start a blog or keep a journal and be true to your feelings in there, say exactly what you think, just to get it out of your mind, and somewhere more tangible where you will be able to look at it objectively and come up with some solutions. I use this technique myself and have found it partially successful in helping to ease the stress of holding myriad bad emotions in.
Also, perhaps consider taking up a hobby that will allow you to express emotions without fear of reproach... have you tried amateur acting? It is incredibly fun, and can be great catharsis, especially if you get a juicy role where you can apply all your strongly felt emotions... with the safe knowledge that it is not really 'you' smile
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