After over a year of being with him I broke up with him for somebody else but it hurts...did I do the right thing? I need some advice and if possible some ways to cope...
If there was any other reason to break up with him, besides to be with another. It's hard to say if you did the right thing.
If you admit to yourself you didn't love him the same as you did. Then I guess it's justified somewhat.
I guess all you can do is look for happier days.
Posted: Thu Mar 18, 2010 8:40 pm
Depends on who you love more. If you weren't ready to let him go you shouldn't of especially if you've been with him for over a year and going for a new guy you don't even know.
its only natural for things like that to happen. its best to dump the person than stay with the person and possibly cheat on them. people change over time and their needs in a relationship change as well. move forward and dont look back! if u dumped him, then he's not good enough to keep, doesnt mean u shouldnt be friends with him though. but its best to have one to two weeks of no contact or talking to eachother. that will most certainly help u focus more on the guy ur with.
so the only wrong thing ur doing is looking back and not moving forward.
Posted: Thu Apr 22, 2010 10:44 am
I don't know. I've never been in your shoes.
I've only had one man in my life. I love my husband very much and he's all I've ever known. It makes things a lot easier and less complicated so it's hard to relate to your situation.
It's understandable for you to have feelings for your ex. You were with him for a year and there are still feelings there. Regret, grief, and a sense of loss are pretty strong emotions to cope with.
You still have feelings for your ex. Try to make the choice that you think would be best for you (and one that you can live with). Remember that pain heals with time. Try not to dwell on it and enjoy life!
Here are some choices: Your can either 1.Break up with your BF and try to get back with your ex (and possibly lose both), 2. stay with your BF and bury your feeling for your ex, or 3.Dump your bf, try to forget about your ex, be single ,do some self-refection, and eventually start afresh.
Who knows, you've been with him for a whole year, you're going to have feelings for him whether it was the right thing or not. Do you love the other guy more? You need to find out before it's too late.
Posted: Mon Jul 05, 2010 11:14 pm
Like Sylar776 said. You have to find out who you love more before it's to late.
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