Complicated Family Issues...

[[[-Nessa-]]]

Well, it would take forever and a day to explain my situation.
So to sum it up,
My parents were fighting for custody of my sister and I,
my mom asked my gramma to get her a lawyer
my gramma got the lawyer for herself
and now we're living with the b***h.

So three years later,
supposedly my dad hasn't done what he was supposed to do by the courts.
He did classes [[that he didn't need to do]] but they were the wrong ones,
so he can't visit us at all, which pisses me off.
My mom can visit whenever she wants though and my gramma doesn't even bug HER about paying child support, but she bugs my dad which is unfair.
She only does that cuz my mom is her daughter.
My mom can visit whenever she pleases if she has the money.
Sometimes my gramma even pays for her to come here.

Well, my dad's mom's husband died aka our grandpa.
And so we wanted to go to the funeral with our dad.
He's our GRANDFATHER for christ's sake.

But our "guardian at litem" or w/e said that our gramma should not let us go.
I don't know how that b***h thinks she can tell us what to do.

We didn't go. evil

But now..
My daddy is supposed to be comin here on July 19.
Now Sharon[[guardian at litem]] doesn't know this.
My gramma don't know this.
Yet.

But Sharon also probably forgot that in her e-mail she said he could come on a supervised visit on his way back from Alabama.
My dad doesn't know that Sharon HAS to be here.
I told him.
But he doesn't wanna pay for her to come.

So basically, I think this is gonna be a disaster and my dad is gonna come for nuthin.
What should I do?
a) Tell my dad not to come unless we call Sharon or e-mail her and get her to come as well.
b) MURDER MY GRAMMA
c) Ask Sharon if it's okay if my mom is here to supervise cuz she's comin and if not, kill her.
d) MUDER SHARON
e) other suggestions

Status on likeing of these people:

Mom - heart
Dad - heart heart
Gramma - evil scream
Sharon - scream evil  

[PristineRose]

Quite complicated issue. Never had a scenario like that so sorry if im no help. If i was you...its either choice a or c (without the killing part).

Have you ever tried talking to your grandma about it? That you WANT to see your dad?  

[Malekhi]

eek you poor thing... eek

i dont know what to say. it sounds like people are just playing with your life (and your dads!)
i feel like crying for you!!
i wish i could help but i really dont know how!
all i can say is follow your heart!
how long until you can excape the custody you are in now and choose?
if i was you i would just be focusing on that day.
im sure it will come soon.
and when it does, nothing else will matter.
what i dont get is why your gramma got you..
why not either one of you parents?
im assuming full time jobs got in the way because of the whole single deal??
or was there something bigger than that? its kool if you dont want to answer
ill understnad.
your life.
but yeah, my heart goes out to you darlin'!
stay strong
chin up
just keep your feelings real for your parents
and dont let anger or anything get in the way, k?
good luck heart heart
**hugs**  

[HiddenWolfNinja]

Hmm...how old are you exactly?

If your old enough, i say deal with it and just let things ride out

but if you kinda young, like before 10th grade, then try to see if you can take it to courts on the fact that maybe your grandma is an unfit gaurdian in YOUR eyes. something like not going to a family funeral is ******** up in my eyes.

i dont know..if your in the 11th or 12th grade, just deal with it the best you can and just let things go as they do, that way when your out of school you can move the hell out anyways and see who you please.

as for the current thing with your dad...i dont know what to do...i never ahd that problem, but maybe you can see if anything in the statements for that can be changed.  

[Bonekeeper E]

burning_eyes wow, the awkward thing was that I was in the same boat as you from like 5-12 years old *my grandma wasn't involved though and I wasn't adopted* ninja

the best thing to do in this situation is more or less wait things out if that's the case, you can't do much on it right now since your parentals will contradict one another's views only to make you wait longer for a worser time

I suggest that you just let the lady come with you, use the supervision as a loophole and make it so that she's around but not interfering in your endeavors, it's obvious you love your dad enough to kill people but not enough to see him...

by all means, try to maintain contact even if it's by email, by phone, by snailmail (letters) by rock and chisel...ANYTHING, a situation as bad as this can be mentally scarring, at any age pretty much (I should know, I dealt with it for about 7 to ? years...3 mental institutions, 4 times going to them, 1 correctional school etc.)

if your dad can, I'm sure he'll change his mind anyway