Another Boy [updated] (newer problem..)

[cheerchik]

So im gonna get right to this point,

i really like this guy,
but i dont really talk to him in person..
only on myspacce..
but he wants to double date.
me and him, and his best friend and my best friend.

it kinda seems like he likes mee,
but he told my bff that he doesnt know if he likes mee.
but he told me that he thinks in very very very pretty and he said he would hook up with mee.
my question is,
should i wait for him to ask me out?
or should i just forget about going out with him, and just hook up with him?


Alsoo,


I met this guy at my church.
but the bad thing is he is 16.
and im 13 about to be 14
and he drives and hes nice and hes really hott.
and he wants to hook up with me too.
but my parents wouldnt want me to be with a guy i kinda just met,
that drives and stufff.
he wants me to give him head though =P
but he said he wouldnt get mad if i dont..
cause i dont want to. im not like that..
so what if i end up liking both of the guys and im suck having to choose one.

they are both like the perfect guy for me.
except one is kinda staying on the edge and not asking me out.
and the other is older and my parents probably wouldnt approve..



Heres my post i recentlly made on 7-19-07

cheerchik

Thanks everyone! your a huge-mungus help.

but ive desided i wanna go with the guy from myspace..
but now its kinda getting harder.

so he told me he likes me
and i like him and i told him..
but im guessing hes waiting to ask me out in person..
but thats not my problem anymore.
my problem is my friend likes him!! and i didnt know about it
i had no idea that she has this huge crush on him.
and now shes really upset because he likes me.
but its not my fault right? i mean i didnt even know she liked him..
so why am i feeling so guilty about this?
i know talking to her will make me feel less bad
but i dont want her to hate me or be really mad if i go out with him..
what should i do to make myself feel less bad about this whole thing..
=/

 

[a.shadow.from.the.dark]

First of all: you don't have to choose this instant.
Second: get to know the two of them better, become their friends. If after a while of being friends, you still want to be more, try it.
As a guy, I'll tell you this:
The male sex is one of the most vicious, and hateful things you could find on this planet. Many guys just want to get as much out of it as they can. Some are desperate, some will, and I mean no offense whatsoever, take a dare and go out with the ugliest girl they can find. Many guys will only be in it for the sex. Becoming friends is the only way to find their true motives. Not may guys that fall under either of the two categories will be willing to be a friend with the person that their trying to exploit for long periods of time. Give it time, find out if they really like you or not, and just choose whoever you like more.

The more you learn about them, the more you will like, and dislike about them. Some guys won't admit they have bad manners, and becoming friends with them, you'll see more and more of it(many guys get more relaxed and like their true selves around friends, yet more uptight around possible girlfriends)

Give it time. That's all I can say. That's all that needs to be said.

I hope this helps.

*Is a ninja!* ninja  

[Chaos489]

Guys can be demanding. Dont so anything for them if you just met them. if nothing more than a test.

this is just my Point of view but, don't date them because their "Hot". If you do it should be because you care about them, more than looks and ability.  

[K1T3]

first off do you know what hook up means? it isn't the same as actually asking the person out. hooking up is just to have fun no relationship at all. hook ups tend to show that the other is pretty much a back stabbing abuser. you have to think things through. if u just like teh person for what tehy look like and what they got u're in for a world of misery. it's better to know the person 1st.  

[FartingCat723]

cheerchik

So im gonna get right to this point,

i really like this guy,
but i dont really talk to him in person..
only on myspacce..
but he wants to double date.
me and him, and his best friend and my best friend.

it kinda seems like he likes mee,
but he told my bff that he doesnt know if he likes mee.
but he told me that he thinks in very very very pretty and he said he would hook up with mee.
my question is,
should i wait for him to ask me out?
or should i just forget about going out with him, and just hook up with him?


Alsoo,


I met this guy at my church.
but the bad thing is he is 16.
and im 13 about to be 14
and he drives and hes nice and hes really hott.
and he wants to hook up with me too.
but my parents wouldnt want me to be with a guy i kinda just met,
that drives and stufff.
he wants me to give him head though =P
but he said he wouldnt get mad if i dont..
cause i dont want to. im not like that..
so what if i end up liking both of the guys and im suck having to choose one.

they are both like the perfect guy for me.
except one is kinda staying on the edge and not asking me out.
and the other is older and my parents probably wouldnt approve..







FOR THOSE WHO ARE TOO LAZY TOO READ THE WHOLE THING.. HAHA..
2 guys. the first guy doesnt know if he likes me. but i like him.
and he said he would hook up with mee.
the other guy is 16 and he drives and my parents wouldnt approve of me going out with him.
but i know he kinda likes me but i dont like him cause i barely know him..
which guy should i choose?

go on a date with the guy from myspace and see how that works out. i would suggest not going with the 16 year old. he seems more like the one who just wants to use you.  

[cheerchik]

Thanks everyone! your a huge-mungus help.

but ive desided i wanna go with the guy from myspace..
but now its kinda getting harder.

so he told me he likes me
and i like him and i told him..
but im guessing hes waiting to ask me out in person..
but thats not my problem anymore.
my problem is my friend likes him!! and i didnt know about it
i had no idea that she has this huge crush on him.
and now shes really upset because he likes me.
but its not my fault right? i mean i didnt even know she liked him..
so why am i feeling so guilty about this?
i know talking to her will make me feel less bad
but i dont want her to hate me or be really mad if i go out with him..
what should i do to make myself feel less bad about this whole thing..
=/  

[a.shadow.from.the.dark]

Talk to her. I see it happen all the time, some guy getting in between to friends relationships.

The best thing I can say, is have a talk with your friend. Try not to have something as simple as a crush(no offense, but thats what it looks like) ruin your friendship.  

[Sotur]

talking to her is the best choice. it's true, it isn't ur fault, u didn;t know, but by saying those words u r putting the "guilt and fault" on her, and i don't think it belongs to either. anywho, u should reall y talk to her. tho i'm really NOT pro-date some internet person, IF u r gonna do it, DON'T GO OUT ALONE!!!! HUGE RED FLAG THERE! i know u don't wanna have 3rd or 4rd wheels on dates, but since it's an internet person, i TRULLY ENCOURAGE COMPANY the 1st few times.  

[cheerchik]

Sotur

talking to her is the best choice. it's true, it isn't ur fault, u didn;t know, but by saying those words u r putting the "guilt and fault" on her, and i don't think it belongs to either. anywho, u should reall y talk to her. tho i'm really NOT pro-date some internet person, IF u r gonna do it, DON'T GO OUT ALONE!!!! HUGE RED FLAG THERE! i know u don't wanna have 3rd or 4rd wheels on dates, but since it's an internet person, i TRULLY ENCOURAGE COMPANY the 1st few times.

thanks a lott =]


oh no, i know him in real life.
thats how i met him. but i only said like 5 words to him.