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October 2, 2008 - Thursday
What is love? Girls I suggest you read this, it has a lot of advice in relationships.
Current mood: annoyed
Category: Life
Time- 5:31AM
My friend Daniella shown this to me and it really helped me out, and a few other friends so I hope this helps you understand your problems with your girlfriend or boyfriend. This is a discussion between The Kansai High School Division Young Women's chief Miki Katanosaka, Igeta, Kimura, and The president of SGI Mr.Ikeda.
Kimura: Along with having questions about friendship, many students are asking about love and relationships.
Igeta: The other day, the following inquiry came from one member of the young women's division: "My mother forbids me from dating anyone. Is it really best to avoid relationships while I'm in high school?"
Ikeda: Your high school year coincide with adolecence. Its as natural to feel attracted, to be interested in, and fall in love with members of the opposite sex during your youth as it is for flowers to bloom in the spring or snow to fall in winter. This is just one of the many phases you'll go through. Like a brilliant new sunrise at dawn, adolecence marks your entry into a new stage of life.
The agonies of love, to, are many and very. Each person has his or her own character and personality and circumstances. Not to set rules applies equally to everyone. In addition, everyone is perfectly free to fall in love or be attracted to someone. Whom a person dates is also a matter of personal choice. Essentially, no one has any right to meddle in your private affairs.
As one who has many years of experience, how ever, I want to stress at the outset how important it is not to lose sight of persuing your personal development. The true purpose of your studies and participation in club or team activities is to build a foundation for a strong self. Your problems, too- be they a lack of self confidence or strained relationship with a friend- able to construct a solid core. The same can be said about love. It should be a force that helps you expand your lives and bring forth your innate potential with fresh and dramatic vitality. That is the ideal, as the saying " Love is blind " illustrates, people who often lose objectivity when they fall in love.
If the relationship you're in is causing your parents to worry or making you neglect your studies or ingage in destructive behavior, then you and the person you're seeing are only being a negitive influence and hindrance to each other. Eitheir of you will be happy if you both end up hurtung each other. I'm sure the mother of the student you mentioned earlier had such concerns. They are the expressions of a parent's heart line all the more so when it comes to parents of daughters.
Igeta: The bottom line, then, is not to lose sight of the fundamental goal of developing lives the are truely valuable meaningful.
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Katanasaka: A student told me: " Having a crush on someone makes each day so much more exciting. I think liking someone is wonderful, and if that person inspires you to grow, its even better. "
Ikeda: The question is: Does that person inspire you to work harder at your studies or distract you from them? Does his or her presence make you more determined to devote greater energies to school activities, be a better friend, a more thoughtful son or daughter? Does he or she inspire you to realize your future goals and work to achive them? Or is that person your central focus, overshadowing all else - your school activities, your friends and family and even your goals?
If you are neglecting the things you should be doing, forgetting your purpose in life because of the relationship you're in, then you're on the wrong path. A healthy relationship is one in which two people encourage each other to reach their respective goals while sharing each other's hopes and dreams. A relationship should be a source of inspiration, invigoraiton and hope.
Dante Alighieri (1265-1321), one of the greatest western poets, had as his source of inspiration a young woman named Beatrice, whom he loved from afar since childhood. One day, after years spent apart, the 18-year-old Dante ran into her again on the street. He later composed a poem about his joy at that encounter, titled "Revitalization." In his struggle to convet his feelings for the young woman, he created a new poetic form. Without a doubt, Beatrice unlocked Dante's artistic potential.
She would remain, however, an unreqited love, for she married another man and then died at an early age. But Dante never ceased loving her. Ultimately, that love enabled him to strengthen, elevate and deepen the capacity of his heart into something truely noble and sublime. In his masterpiece, "The Divine Comedy," Dante depicts Beatrice as a gentle, benevolent being who guides him to heaven.
Ofcourse, Dante lioved int a different age and a different country from us. But I think many things are to be learned from this great poet who stayed true to his feelings, whether they were reciprocated or not, and transformed them into his guiding inspiration in life. I truely belive that love must be a positive impetus for our lives, the driving force that rouses us to live courageously.
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Katanosaka: One high school student sent a letter to the Koko Shimpo (high school division newspaper in Japan) in which she wrote: "There's an older student in a class above me that I like and respect very much. One of my girlfriends told me I should stick to respect and forget about love. I don't agree with her, but I don't know what I should do?"
Ikeda: There is no answer. There are as many views on love as there are people! So I don't think we can find a blanket policy on love that will win everyone's consensus. Love is a complex matter that reflects each person's attitude and philosophy towards life. Thats why I belive people shouldn't get involved in relationships lightly. It is like the Japanese saying, "Do not treat Love like a game.".....
..."Without respect, no relationship will last for very long nor can two people bring out the best in each other."
..." Rather than becoming so love-struck that you creat a world where only the two of you exist, it is much healthier to learn from those aspects of your parnter that you respect and admire and continue to make efforts to improve and develop yourself. Antoine de Saint-Exupery, the author of "The little prince," once wrote, "Love is not two people gazing at each other, but two people looking ahead together in the same direction.: It follows then that relationships last longer when both partners share similar valuses and beliefs.
Men, too, must respect women as individuals. Doing so is a sign of maturity. I once heard that a female student from a neighboring Asian country remarked: " Japanese men merely regard women as playthings. They lack the maturity to respect women as human beings."
~This usually goes for all men!
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-I'll continue tomorrow I am sorry but I have to take a shower and go somewhere, so till tomorrow-
 Waipahe_Puuwai · Mon Jan 05, 2009 @ 12:42am · 0 Comments |
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