|
Believers Never Die, but Martyrs Never Live
Ok, I'm done with the holding of my tongue on this subject because it has gone on long enough...
this is to the person I love ever so much who keeps making themselves feel bad over this sorority s**t.
yes, I said sorority s**t. I'm sorry to say this, but I think you have a problem. I think you are overly obsessed with the whole idea of belonging to a sorority. You put way to much emotion into it. I know it is something that you wanted to do, but when it gets to the point where when you get denied and you keep reliving it every week, I really can't condone it.
Personally, all the fraternity/sorority stuff has never played that important of a role in my life where I had to relive getting rejected and feeling bad every time someone else does something related to it. I didn't get into Phi Mu Alpha, I hurt for a day or 2, then I sucked it up and realized that there is more I need to do. I realize you and I are not one in the same and we feel things differently, but you really need to stop martyring yourself and singling yourself out to make it feel like you are the only one.
there is no reason that when I said that I had the same experience with Phi Mu Alpha that you had to say "that's not the same thing": or when I said I understood what you were going through that you had to say "No, you really don't"
you purposely single yourself out and set yourself up to feel low. The sad thing is that you don't even see it.
you REALLY over idealize and damn near idolize the fraternity/sorority life.
me, whether I make it a second time around or not, I'm still gonna be me. Because really, we put all of them on a pedestal when really, at the end of the day, its just something to do.
you long for sisterhood, you yearn to belong. Well, there are other things to belong to. This sorority is not the end all, be all of your entire life. And I know you're gonna say "I know that, but its just something I really wanted to do". I understand that, but you are really taking this too far. It shouldn't have been a week of on and off crying at all hours, day or night because you didn't get in. And you shouldn't get in a funk and start feeling sorry for yourself and doing the whole "that should've been me" routine every time another sorority comes through with another group of neophytes. I'm tired of watching you hurt yourself.
really, I don't know if I can just sit and watch you self destruct...
|
