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memories tied to songs?


whats the best way to deal with a bad event? well even though things like friends are best (in my opinion at least) we often resort to the amazingly wide knownledge of: music!

whether its to get our minds off the event(s) or help us focus on those feelings to think them out (..or just to stay depressed for attention..) we often resort ot music.

logically, it actually makes sense! well to a degree at least..

anyway
so the songs served their purpose, whatever that was exactly, and then what?

this is the part that both interests me and confuses me

a great deal of people will not listen to said music again or if they do then they feel much pain associated with the songs once used to help.

why is this?

i know that many people feel a connection with music, one so that it can effect the mood of a person to a degree.

perhaps the tone of the music (since in most cases like this it is usually a more depressing one) just changes the mood to one that might come close to that of the event. such a close resemblence maybe stirs memories? or would it just be the song itself stiring the memories of a person?

nevertheless, i have such a connection with music yet this doesnt bother me any! i listen to those songs over and over no matter which mood im in and such pain is never brought back to me!
sure, i remember the events that corrilate with that music but i do little more than regret having made such a choice at the time. then i switch to the positive side and am thankful that everything is ok now.

so if everything gets better at some point then why do people still feel the pain of horrible times? it would make sense if such things were still bothering u but most times this happens long after those events.

then why?
is it a matter of positive and negative thoughts?

but that wouldn't make much sense either! im a naturally negative thinker and continuesly try my hardest to think on the positive side. despite that, how come these things do not bother me but those i know very well?

why? why? why?

is this simply a matter of a deeper level of regret than i can comprehend myself? or could this more be out of a matter of fear? might someone be too afraid to re-experience the pain and therefore burry it and anything in connection with it?



----[warning, my hyperness had fully kicked in for the following text]----

argh i honestly have no idea! which sorta bothers me cause i wish i had at least some clue. then again, im sure the only i can attain that is to acually ask someone who acts that way.
oi, talk about bothersome..
and i dont think that would go over well anyway...
seeing as how im just a weeeeee bit hyper at the moment!

xd xd xd
yeah, with thoughts flying like this, thers no way i'll be able to figure anything out right now clearly.

except that i want some more coke... maybe chocolate...
ah heck! i just need some goodly suger!
i wonder how many spoonfulls it'll take this time....

last time it took 7

ok i really need to end this before i start murdering my own previous thoughts

xd